Although the choice of toys often appears as a dilemma for parents, the main point to be overlooked is that play is not the most important thing. Psychological Counselor Hakan Emniyetoğlu talks about “play”.
Although play is considered to be a process in which many families are distracted by their children without disturbing them, play is in fact an integral part of the child's development and education.
Through play, the child not only has the opportunity to get to know the outside world, but also spends most of the amazing energy that they have accumulated in their tiny bodies.
The game also helps the child to evade one of his most powerful and natural impulses, the drive of aggression.
The social environment of the child, which is not as large as us adults, appears in games where different communication models are copied. We often come across a child, two dolls, probably copied from the mother's father's daily dialogue, playing with toy cars, playing with his parents while driving, and punishing the doll as a little sister. This gives us clues not only about how the child perceives the outside world, but also about ourselves through the mirror it holds. In this context, play is not a reflection of leisure time, but a reflection of the child's developing and changing personality.
Another role of play is that children should learn some cognitive concepts while playing with toys of various shapes and sizes. It helps him to understand the differences and similarities of the object as well as contrasting concepts such as big-small, long-short, color-colorless. Although square or rectangular does not mean much for the child conceptually, it will be interesting to know that the table on which it is eating is rectangular.
Initially, the child, who prefers to play alone, begins to allow participation in the game from close surroundings with the enrichment of the content of the game and the multiplication of the figures needed in the game and switches to group play. However, the structure, which was egocentric in the early childhood, insisted on putting rules in play. This also reveals the first personality conflicts, but at the same time the child begins to prepare for his role in the adult world.
The attitude of the child in the play has a great effect on the way the family approaches the child. Leaving aside the characteristics of developmental periods, children of families with excessive tolerance tend to have a more closed and discordant character during the game, while children of families with excessive authoritarian approaches may adopt passive, passive-aggressive or aggressive attitudes.
GAME BY AGE
The first thing that stands out when we enter the rooms of newborns is that they are designed as if they were out of magazines. Generally, it appears to be a reflection of the dreams that the mothers have made until they have achieved this happy responsibility, rather than the needs of the child. In fact, this color revel in the baby's room and moving materials hanging from different places are your children's first toys.
The movements that we make by putting our faces from shape to shape, shapes in the music box or wallpaper rotating at the bedside are the games that trigger the perception of your baby for 2-3 months, the motor development in each move he makes to reach and hold them. will enrich the game. When choosing toys for 0-18 months old children, colorful, different sizes, unbreakable, soft and preferably washable toys should be chosen, which can create cause and effect relationships. When he starts walking, toys that move or follow with him can be selected to motivate this movement.
Children up to 2 years of age can usually play parallel games. They can either play alone or play with different objects despite being in the same environment.
The child starts to socialize a little more from the age of 2 and starts to repeat the roles of the figures in the neighborhood. While trying to talk to her baby like her mother, she can try to read newspapers like her father and drink water from an empty glass. As age gets older, police begin to imitate social roles such as doctors. In these age children, large-piece jigsaws and colored bars can be preferred in order to establish cause-effect relationships.
It is seen that children aged 4-6 tend to play games and toys according to their characteristics. While boys incorporate the masculine figures they identify with in their play, girls play rather feminine characteristics. The main characteristic of this period is the imitation of the mother or father. During this period, you will choose the toys that are suitable for your gender whether you want to or not. 10-12 piece jigsaws, disassembled large piece car and so on. All kinds of toys, coloring book should be preferred.
Her Water oyun is the easiest game and toy to be found and applied for every term but especially for preschoolers. Water, which suppresses the aggressive tendencies of the child and discharges the negative energy, improves the creativity and analytical thinking of the child with the secondary materials to be left in the water.
In any age and under any circumstances, electronic toys do not contribute to the child's development. Since all data on cause and effect are compressed between electronic circuits, they do not contribute to the development of the child's creativity.
As can be seen from our article; What matters is the game, not the toy… The toy is no more than a vehicle on the road to the goal. The toy gains value with the role and sharing attributed to it. For a child, any object around you can be a toy, as long as there are playmates who keep their childish hearts in the huge bodies to play with.